It haunts me every time. Recently, it was a close friend, a father who is living the nightmare of his son’s active addiction. Complicated by the young man’s mental illness, this father’s not sure which came first – the drugs or the mental sickness – but the heavy marijuana use thwarts any effort to find …
Recently a mother suffering the effects of her son’s substance abuse asked me why I still attend Al-Anon meetings. That evening she was celebrating her loved one’s newfound sobriety. He was six months clean and she was overjoyed to have him “back.” While I celebrated with her, my instinct was to caution her. There is …
How often do we hear addiction referred to as a “disease?” And we are told that those who suffer from the effects of the “disease” – directly or indirectly – are ill? For years, professionals who treat people with substance abuse, and many in recovery themselves, have fought to decriminalize addiction. Calling it a “disease” …
It’s often the very first question asked. After I share my story with an audience, with or without Jacob at my side, a hand goes up from the back of the room. “My sister has a son who’s been in and out of treatment. He’s 34 and he’s still using. He lives with her and …
Among the many life lessons learned through my son’s recovery from addiction, and thereby from my own, is to make amends promptly. I’ve also learned that it doesn’t matter if you did or didn’t do the wrong. What matters is, does the other person perceive you did? A recent incident reminded me. A local charity …
The woman seemed haunted. When she talked about her son, a shadow fell across her eyes. I met Carol (not her real name) recently. She fell in step with me as we walked with a group of Americans on the tiled streets of Granada, part of a six-city tour of Spain. Her adult son had …
At a recent book talk a mother asked me, “How involved did you get in researching places for your son?” Her anxious face catapulted me back into the crazed, frenetic days of Jacob’s disease, when he was at his worst, and so was I. The memory brought back all the feelings of feeling out of …
You know it. You hear it incessantly. Exercise is one of the best relievers of stress. It’s something easy we can do for ourselves. But what if you’re suffering the worst kind of stress – an obsession with someone you love who’s slowly killing himself – and thereby you, too – through drug or alcohol …